Monday, April 7, 2014

Still alive :)

I just spent an hour trying to figure out why all my photos on this blog dissapeared. Turns out it was my settings on google+...

Just figured I would stop by and mention we are still alive :)

Not much is new over here.. so READY for warmer weather and some fun in the sun!

Here is a quick little update on 2014 so far!

Lucas turned 6 in January and we had a great time celebrating with 40 of his closest friends lol!

These were the kids valentine cards this year! Kate and lucas chose their designs this year!

I took the kids out for a mini field session on the last day of lucas as a 5 year old! How handsome is my little man??

Sloan is obsessed with her doll named "baby bottle" that her godmother bought her! 

We got more snow this year then i think ever since I have lived in NC. Lucas liked it. Sloan did not. The snow came in crazy fast and really turned raleigh into a mess!!! It took dave over 4 hours to get home (normally around 20 minutes) and people were stranded all over the place! 

I mean she really did not like it. 

It snowed again in Feb and this time I had more adults at home to help me. Sloan was a little less cautious. this time. Daddy even got her to walk in it. 

Seriously. She is growing up too fast! We had a random pretty day in Feb. and I took advantage of it! 
 We celebrated Uncle Mikey's birthday too with tacos and a homemade cake by me!!

February is also the month of the infamous annual panty exchange party at my house! This year we made it a panty and polish party (nail polish!) As usual it was a great time!! 

One march day sloan and I had a teeny shoot at the house after gymnastics. She loves this leotard my mom got her! 

This one makes me laugh.. its like a preview t o the wye rolls I am sure to get in about ten years or so. 

We took our first lil field trip to the buffaloe road aquatic center :) 

In upcoming news... We are heading to bald head island for easter/spring break and are SO excited! Lucas does not believe its a real island that doesnt allow cars, only bikes and golf carts. He seriously thinks I am kidding!

Wednesday, October 9, 2013

Before and After : The Patio

I realized with all my posting of the kitchen makeover updates I forgot to officially post the before and after of our patio we had built last MAY! Whoops! Better late then never! We hardly ever used our backyard before and knew we wanted to expand our tony slab of concrete into a usable patio! These shots were taking last march of the "before" backyard. 

After lots of research and interviewing we settled on working with Mark of 

He was a fast responder and super knowlegable. Both of which are very important to me! After going over my design and choosing the stamped and stained concrete he set a start date very quickly! I highly recommend this company so if you have a need let him know the Faby family sent you his way (and let me know if you do!) 

Here is the final result! We are so happy with it and have already spend many nights roasting marshmallows and many days eating snacks in the sun and playing with bubbles! Cant wait to make new memories here for the rest of our lives! Hope you stop by to make some with us! xo

Wednesday, August 14, 2013

Why Private school??

Next week Lucas will start Kindergarten at The Franciscan School. TFS is a Catholic private school.  Over the past year people have asked me where Lucas was going. To be honest I have a little bit frustrated with some of the responses I have gotten about it.  Some people think its great, some people tell me that they wish they could send their kid to private school, or how they have heard great things about but too many people almost seem offended by it. "why would you do that?" or defensive "we love our public school" I even had someone snottily try and make me feel like some kind of weirdo "Why? I don't know anyone who does that" and my favorite "why would you do that to your kid?  I hated Catholic school"

I hate that I feel the need to defend our decision and honestly I am surprised at all the weird look and "why's"? I  am getting.

I say this as nicely as possible so forgive the internet tone it may carry. I am not sending my child to private school because I think my kid deserves better then your kid, or he is too good for public school. In fact our choice to send our kids to private school has nothing to do with you. Or putting down public schools and their teachers.

Very simply put we did take public schools into consideration. There are some very good public schools around here, but I don't trust the way things change with wake county schools. I personally love and respect many wonderful wake county teachers I call friends.

But since Lucas was one Dave and I decided we would send him to private school. Specifically TFS the k-8 school attached to our church St Francis. For the past 3 years he has attended pre school there and we have loved our time in the St Francis community. Everyone I know has had a great experience with the school. I love that religion and faith I already have is incorporated every day, not banned. They say the pledge of allegiance, the classes are just the right size, i believe in uniforms, and the school is smaller. The smaller school is huge for me. My graduating high school class was over 500 students. It was hard to feel connected for me and the parents.

Don't get me wrong I am sure we will have issues with some things in the future just like every parent does with schools. But this is what feels right for our family. I myself was public school kid and I turned out just fine, I made good grades, and I got into a good college!  My husband went to catholic school all his life. And he makes a great living at a great job.

As for the cost. No I am not excited about the cost of school. No we aren't making millions of dollars and just looking for ways to spend it and we aren't getting help from our parents, so it is going to be a hit every year.  But its important to me. I believe a good education is the foundation of my children's future. And its not as bad as one would think. Especially for now while it is only one and not two or three yet :). To put it into perspective for us this year its HALF the cost of a decent daycare and most people are already spending a ton of money on daycare so its still a savings.

Anyways it was really bothering me... so thats why we are going private.

I still can't believe how fast time has gone and that we are already starting school!! Thankfully I am more nervous then him :)

Friday, June 21, 2013

I need to remind myself of this. Thank goodness most of the people in my life make the statement that they are amazing giving loving people. And to the few in my life who aren't... well i just feel bad for them.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

The invisible mother.

Someone posted this earlier and it made me cry. I can relate. Being a mom is one of the most under appreciated thankless jobs I have ever done. Being a stepmom? Even worse. Sometimes I find myself wondering why i bother with all the time the activities they will never remember. I want to scream when my husband asks me what I did all day even though I know it looks like nothing. Or when my friends assume I am free to do as I please because I am just hanging out with the kids. This was a great perspective on being a mom and the bigger picture. And a friend who noticed and made all the difference for just saying it. :) To all the moms out there who feel invisible good job on building your cathedral!!

Invisible Mother

It all began to make sense, the blank stares, the lack of response, the way
one of the kids will walk into the room while I'm on the phone and ask to be
taken to the store. Inside I'm thinking, 'Can't you see I'm on the phone?'

Obviously not; no one can see if I'm on the phone, or cooking, or sweeping
the floor, or even standing on my head in the corner, because no one can see
me at all. I'm invisible. The invisible Mom. Some days I am only a pair of
hands, nothing more! Can you fix this? Can you tie this? Can you open this??

Some days I'm not a pair of hands; I'm not even a human being. I'm a clock
to ask, 'What time is it?' I'm a satellite guide to answer, 'What number is
the Disney Channel?' I'm a car to order, 'Right around 5:30, please.'

Some days I'm a crystal ball; 'Where's my other sock?, Where's my phone?,
What's for dinner?'

I was certain that these were the hands that once held books and the eyes
that studied history, music and literature -but now, they had disappeared
into the peanut butter, never to be seen again. She's going, she's
going, she's gone!

One night, a group of us were having dinner, celebrating the return of a
friend from England . She had just gotten back from a fabulous trip, and she
was going on and on about the hotel she stayed in. I was sitting there,
looking around at the others all put together so well. It was hard not to
compare and feel sorry for myself. I was feeling pretty pathetic, when she
turned to me with a beautifully wrapped package, and said, 'I brought you
this.' It was a book on the great cathedrals of Europe . I wasn't exactly
sure why she'd given it to me until I read her inscription: 'With admiration
for the greatness of what you are building when no one sees.'

In the days ahead I would read - no, devour - the book. And I would discover
what would become for me, four life-changing truths, after which I could
pattern my work:

1) No one can say who built the great cathedrals - we have no record
of their names.

2) These builders gave their whole lives for a work they would never
see finished.

3) They made great sacrifices and expected no credit.

4) The passion of their building was fuelled by their faith that the
eyes of God saw everything.

A story of legend in the book told of a rich man who came to visit the
cathedral while it was being built, and he saw a workman carving a tiny bird
on the inside of a beam. He was puzzled and asked the man,
'Why are you spending so much time carving that bird into a beam that
will be covered by
the roof. No one will ever see it'

And the workman replied, 'Because God sees.'

I closed the book, feeling the missing piece fall into place. It was almost
as if I heard God whispering to me, 'I see you. I see the sacrifices you
make every day, even when no one around you does.

No act of kindness you've done, no sequin you've sewn on, no cupcake you've
baked, no Cub Scout meeting, no last minute errand is too small for me to
notice and smile over. You are building a great cathedral, but you can't see
right now what it will become.

I keep the right perspective when I see myself as a great builder. As one of
the people who show up at a job that they will never see finished, to work
on something that their name will never be on. The writer of the book went
so far as to say that no cathedrals could ever be built in our lifetime
because there are so few people willing to sacrifice to that degree.

When I really think about it, I don't want my son to tell the friend he's
bringing home from college for Thanksgiving, 'My Mom gets up at 4 in the
morning and bakes homemade pies, and then she hand bastes a turkey for 3
hours and presses all the linens for the table.' That would mean I'd built a
monument to myself. I just want him to want to come home. And then, if there
is anything more to say to his friend, he'd say, 'You're gonna love it

As mothers, we are building great cathedrals. We cannot be seen if we're
doing it right. And one day, it is very possible that the world will marvel,
not only at what we have built, but at the beauty that has been added to the
world by the sacrifices of invisible mothers.

Share this with all the Invisible Moms you know.... I just did.

The Will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect

To all the wonderful mothers out there!! God bless and keep you.

Monday, June 3, 2013

Sloan's 2nd birthday wishlist!

Just keeping a running list of things she might like and doesn't already have! :) I can't believe she will be two in just a few months! Save the date: August 17th Sloan's bowtique party! 

Of course most of this is online so my early OCD gives family plenty of time to order if I put it up now! ;)  

I am sure I will add stuff~ if you get something let me know and I will take it off the list to avoid duplicates!! 

Saturday, May 18, 2013

All kinds of moms!

I saw this today on a friend's FB page, and it was just what I needed! I know as a mother of a spirited toddle, an active almost kindergartner, and a preteen girl, I am constantly having to do the best I can do and pray its good enough! Hope this speaks to you the way it did to me! :) Let's be there for all types of moms!

To the mom who's breastfeeding: Way to go! It really is an amazing gift to give your baby, for any amount of time that you can manage! You're a good mom. 

To the mom who's formula feeding: Isn't science amazing? To think there was a time when a baby with a mother who couldn't produce enough would suffer, but now? Better living through chemistry! You're a good mom. 

To the cloth diapering mom: Fluffy bums are the cutest, and so friendly on the bank account. You're a good mom.

To the disposable diapering mom: Damn those things hold a lot, and it's excellent to not worry about leakage and laundry! You're a good mom.

To the mom who stays home: I can imagine it isn't easy doing what you do, but to spend those precious years with your babies must be amazing. You're a good mom.

To the mom who works: It's wonderful that you're sticking to your career, you're a positive role model for your children in so many ways, it's fantastic. You're a good mom.

To the mom who had to feed her kids from the drive thru all week because you're too worn out to cook or go grocery shopping: You're feeding your kids, and hey, I bet they aren't complaining! Sometimes sanity can indeed be found in a red box with a big yellow M on it. You're a good mom.

To the mom who gave her kids a homecooked breakfast lunch and dinner for the past week: Excellent! Good nutrition is important, and they're learning to enjoy healthy foods at an early age, a boon for the rest of their lives. You're a good mom.

To the mom with the kids who are sitting quietly and using their manners in the fancy restaurant: Kudos, it takes a lot to maintain order with children in a place where they can't run around. You're a good mom.

To the mom with the toddler having a meltdown in the cereal aisle: they always seem to pick the most embarrassing places to lose their minds don't they? We've all been through it. You're a good mom.

To the moms who judge other moms for ANY of the above? Glass houses, friend. Glass houses.